Welcome to the August edition of Authentic Parenting Blog Carnival: Breastfeeding.
This post was written for inclusion in the monthly Authentic Parenting Blog Carnival hosted by The Positive Parenting Connection and Authentic Parenting. As August is Breastfeeding awareness month, our participants are writing about this exact subject! Please read to the end to find a list of links to the other carnival participants.
To my nursling,
Here I offer you a poem to encapsulate what nursing means to me. Though words fail to describe my feelings surrounding nursing, they can at least begin to sketch a picture of the significance of breastfeeding in our mother-son relationship. Maybe one day, years from now, my words will touch some place deep within you, a warm, hazy memory of childhood contentment and security, a little of what breastfeeding also meant to you.
Our precious mother-child dyad,
A deep connection as you suckle;
I am giving, you are taking from me,
As your fingers wind through my hair twisting, curling, grasping,
Your eyes locked into mine.
In this symbiosis
Star-gazing deeply into each other’s eyes
Your look somersaulting me down through our twenty-six nursing months
To your tumultuous birth,
Your arriving wrenched into the world cold, alone, breast-starved for three long hours
Our pain and loss alleviated in our first meeting,
Our eyes locked, your knowing look,
Your long waiting over, reaching for me intuitively, latching on,
An expert at first suckle, contentment as your eyelids flutter to your first sleep,
My racing heart calming instantly by your nursing,
Oxytocin flowing through our bodies,
Bathing in this love I hold onto this first of countless nursing embraces,
Unearthing my mothering instincts as I hold this tiny being at my breast.
Broken out of my reverie you suddenly insist on ‘other side Mummy’,
I oblige you as you squeal with delight, in anticipation of more ‘snuggles’.
Watching you feed I imagine what nursing means to you;
Your anchor in the roughest storms of childhood,
Your instant calm in all your toddler hurts,
Your key source of nourishment,
Your wonder medicine, your immunity boost,
Your reconnection to a deeper place of being,
Your peaceful, secure night-times, no matter what.
Your time-out from the busy world around you,
Your gentle way of falling asleep in any environment,
Your reminder of Mummy’s unconditional love,
Your passage out of pain, frustration and bewilderment of your young life, to
A place between, a soothing nest, a return to your first beginnings.
As you unlatch to reach for your next milestone I feel
An invisible thread connecting us down through the years,
Expanding and reinforced as time passes.
Watching you skip off happily down the garden, belly full, your blond mop of hair bright against the sun,
I smile with pride at our nursing relationship,
Feeling strength, empowered with knowledge and experience to continue this journey
Trusting my child, listening to my mothering instinct
Knowing this nursing dyad will last until we both naturally move on.
So this is what nursing means to me, my child,
It is who we are
It is nature’s perfect mothering tool;
It is simply how our mother.
Here are a selection of breastfeeding photos, in some more unusual places!
Please take time to read the submissions by the other carnival participants:
- Parenting Myth Busted: They Never Stop Breastfeeding – Laura at Authentic Parenting shares how her 4 year old effectively weans herself.
- 7 Tips for Breastfeeding In Public Stress Free – From baby wearing to using a scarf, Ariadne of Positive Parenting Connection is sharing many helpful tips on how to breastfeed in public stress free.
- Breastfeeding has been Downhill – Jorje of Momma Jorje compares her nursing experiences and finds… it hasn’t gotten easier with time and experience.
- A Heartfelt Tip for the Nursing Mamas – Margaux from Young Nesters gives her biggest piece of advice for all present and future breastfeeding Mamas.
- Breastfeeding Carnival – Billy at My Pathway To Motherhood writes about the past, present and future of nursing her daughter.
- Amy W. at Me, Mothering and Making it All Work describes why she loves to advocate for and help nurture breastfeeding relationships.
- To My Nursling – Stone Age Parent dedicates a breastfeeding poem to her child.
- My 3 ½ Year Old Breastfeeds As Much As A Newborn – And That Is Fine By Me – Jennifer at Hybrid Rasta Mama
- Authentic Parenting Blog Carnival of Breastfeeding: Our Sorta Sudden Gentle Weaning – Wolfmother Chronicles
- How to breastfeed while babywearing in a men tai – Lauren at Hobo Mama offers a video tutorial for easy, hands-free nursing on the go in a mei tai (Asian-style) baby carrier.
- My Boobs? Mighty Frickin’ Spectacular, Thank You Very Much. – Rhianna from The Other Baby Book shares a post crediting breastfeeding with nurturing a connection not only with her son, but also with her breasts and her body’s empowering ability to do its thing.